Finding Hope in Grief: God Works for Our Good in All Things
How can we find hope when tragedy strikes when we’re least expecting it? Life sometimes delivers unexpected blows that leave us questioning everything. This past week was particularly difficult for our family as we gathered to celebrate the life of my husband’s cousin, who passed away suddenly and tragically at just 46 years old. When Tragedy Strikes There’s nothing like death to make you pause and take inventory of your life. In those quiet moments of reflection, the questions naturally arise: How am I spending my time? Who am I spending it with? Am I making the most of my life? As we sat with family and friends, sharing memories and shedding tears, we found ourselves wrestling with the age-old question: Why would something like this happen to a young family? Why does God allow such heartbreak? Finding Comfort in Scripture In these moments of grief, the promise found in Romans 8:28 brought us such comfort: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” This verse doesn’t promise that everything that happens is good—clearly, there is immense pain and suffering in our world. Rather, it assures us that God can work through all circumstances, even the most tragic ones, to ultimately bring about good. The Mystery of God’s Purpose While we may not understand the purpose behind death, addiction, job loss, or any of the difficult challenges life throws our way, faith means holding onto the belief that somehow, in ways we might not yet see, God is working in our painful situations toward something that will eventually reveal His greater purpose. This is the core of our Christian hope: He will work FOR our good in all things. The Victory That Sustains Us The foundation of this hope is simple yet profound: Jesus is who He said He was. He defeated death and rose from the grave. If He can conquer death itself, He can certainly take anything terrible in our lives and redeem it for good. An Invitation to the Table If you’re carrying something heavy today—if this week didn’t go as planned or you’re struggling with something that feels insurmountable—know that you are welcome at the table to sit with Jesus and take communion with Him. Whether it’s been years since you’ve stepped into a church or this is your very first time considering faith, remember: we’re one big family at The Village. And yes, family dinners can be messy. But God has taken on all our burdens and continues to invite us to bring them to Him. Let’s gather together—in our grief, our questions, our hopes, and our faith—and be with our family and our Father. See you there Sunday. Find hope today! The Village is dedicated to prayer and lifting our requests up to God, because He hears every one. How can we pray for you?
Be The Light
Several weeks ago, we were given an envelope at church with $20 in it. We were told to pray about where God could use that money to be the light. I was home with my children doing our Bible study one morning, and one of the prompts asked about something we are being patient and waiting on God about. My 8-year-old son, in true 8-year-old form, wrote about a 3D printer. I mentioned to him that those were expensive, and if it was something he really wanted, he was going to need to come up with ways to earn money and start saving toward that. It happened to be snowing that day, so we thought about shoveling for neighbors to earn money. Then, I hopped in the shower, and God does a lot of His talking to me during those times of quiet when I am alone, and the gears started moving in my mind. The Assignment Revealed This turned into more of a service project than anything else. I threw the idea out that we could use our $20 from church to purchase a few more shovels and invite some friends to join us and help our neighbors. We could offer to shovel for free, or if people felt moved to donate, they could, and we would give all the money to Reclaimed. The kids LOVED this idea! (I originally also said that whatever they earned, mom and dad would match it so they could still earn money towards saving for the 3D printer, but we have yet to be held accountable to that.) We went and bought a couple new shovels. We reached out to a few of our local homeschool friends and met up with them. I posted in some local Facebook groups what we were doing and slowly started getting messages. My friend Sarah and I drove around to the houses that contacted us, and we got to work. It was incredible to see these kids working together and working hard. They learned that many hands make light work and that jobs are more fun when done with friends. The people that we encountered were so kind and so generous. Some giving us more than money and providing snacks for the kids, or extra salt. Invaluable Lessons The kids were having such a great time that they asked if they could just start going door to door. We had them practice what they were going to say and gave them the go ahead! We watched them have the courage to talk to strangers, and saw them handle disappointment with grace, as some people did not want their driveway shoveled, even for free. They would walk away with their heads down, but then quickly look up and run with smiles to the next house. We even made sure to shovel the sidewalk at church! The kids ended up earning $261 in donations from local neighbors. They were asking if I could drive them around the next day. They were so excited! I was ready! Unfortunately, we didn’t get any more snow, so our services were no longer needed. Pastor Nate said that he would match what they earned up to $500! We were thrilled!! We waited around a little while to see if we would get any more snow and see if we could grow that money anymore. Something was telling me to just wait. God Shows Up So, we waited. Then, one day about a week or two ago, one of our dear friends shared some amazing news with us. They heard from the doctor/scientist that is working on a cure for their son. They were needed in New York sometime in April for genetic testing on each member of their family. Because I know this family very well, I already knew that many expenses were in their near future with four kids and birthdays and all the extracurriculars and camps coming up, and this was something they were already worrying about and praying about and picking up extra shifts to accommodate. This was something that they needed to do, and it was unknown when it would be done. It became clear that this was what we were waiting for. I prayed about and started contacting more of our homeschool friends and our lifegroup and Nate. I was blown away at the outpouring of love and generosity from these friends and family members. In total, we were able to give them $3,500 to help get them all to New York!! Praise God!! I was in tears on the phone, sharing with my friend what we were doing. She was in tears. She shared with me that they were just discussing everything as a family and thinking about not being able to take everyone because of expenses, and one of their kids said, “Mom, dad, don’t worry. God will provide a way.” And He did! He did! Check out the “Be The Light” messages, discussion guides and videos to learn more!
From Corporate America to Kingdom Building
As I prepare for The Village Christian Church’s new Shorewood Campus launch in the fall, I can’t help but marvel at the journey that’s brought me here. My path from corporate America to full-time ministry has been a testament to God’s perfect timing and provision. It’s a story of transformation, faith, and the power of following God’s call. Even when it leads you down unexpected paths. A Life of Service My journey of service began long before I entered the ministry. At 17, I left my hometown of Tampa, Florida, to join the Air Force. For eight years, I served as an air transportation specialist. This role took me from the Philippines to Nebraska and many places in between. Those years instilled in me a deep sense of duty and the importance of working as part of a team toward a greater goal. Little did I know then how God would use this experience to prepare me for His service. The Bible tells us, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” – Romans 8:28, NIV. After leaving the Air Force, I dove into the civilian world, starting in the airline industry. Beginning as a baggage handler, I worked my way up to Regional Vice President. Within five years, I oversaw 84 aviation accounts across the central United States. This rapid ascent taught me valuable lessons in leadership, perseverance, and the power of hard work. My career then took me through various industries – from manufacturing and distribution to retail distribution. For the last 13 years of my corporate career, I was serving as a General Manager for a big name, corporate supply chain distribution center. This role proved to be, not just the pinnacle of my corporate journey, but also a crucial steppingstone towards my future in ministry. The Stirring of a New Calling Despite the success and satisfaction, I found in my business roles, there was always a sense that something was missing. I’ve been a person of faith throughout my life, but it wasn’t until recent years that I began to feel a strong pull toward full-time ministry. This calling, however, didn’t come as a sudden epiphany. Rather, it was a gradual realization shaped by a series of life experiences and divine interventions. As I reflect on this period of my life, I’m reminded of the words of Jeremiah 29:11: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God was quietly preparing me for a significant change, even when I couldn’t see it. A pivotal moment in my journey came about 11 years ago when my company asked my wife and I to transfer from Cincinnati, Ohio, to Salem, Oregon. I was less than thrilled about the idea of moving to the Northwest. We had no family, no friends, no connections, no roots in Salem. However, this move, which initially seemed challenging, became a crucial step in God’s plan for our lives. During our short couple of years in Salem, my wife, who was a new believer at the time, joined a ladies’ LifeGroup. Through this group, she experienced tremendous growth in her faith and knowledge of God’s word. This period was transformative for both of us, as we watched God work in our lives in unexpected ways. Financial Peace and God’s Provision One of the most significant experiences during our time in Salem was our participation in Financial Peace University (FPU). At the time, I thought I was making all the right financial moves. I had a good job, made great money, and had investments. However, as we went through the class, I realized I was making some poor financial decisions. One verse that stood out to me was Proverbs 22:7 “The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is slave to the lender.” The idea of being a slave to anyone, much less a lender, didn’t appeal to me. Inspired by Dave Ramsey’s teachings, my wife and I attacked our debt with “Gazelle Intensity”. We paid off both our cars, all of our credit cards, and a personal loan – everything except our house. I found such peace in this and would later discover this was a crucial step in preparing us for the leap of faith we would take down the road. Looking back, I can see how God was preparing us even then for the transition to full-time ministry. Without this financial freedom, the move from corporate America to ministry would have been much more challenging, if not impossible. The Path to Ministry After two years in Salem, we were transferred back to Ohio. During our time there, we had the opportunity to help a pastor friend start a new church in Hebron, Kentucky. My wife and I provided leadership to the teams there for about six months, helping them get up and running. This experience gave us a taste of what it was like to be involved in church planting and leadership. We also became LifeGroup leaders at our local church in Ohio. Our group grew from about eight people to 22, and it was beautifully diverse – young and old, married and single, people from all ethnicities. This experience taught me the joy of shepherding a small community and watching people grow in their faith. During this time of searching and growth, I found myself increasingly drawn to Jesus’ words in Luke 9:23-24: “Then he said to them all: ‘Whoever wants to be my disciple must deny themselves and take up their cross daily and follow me. For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will save it.’” These words challenged me to consider what it truly meant to follow Christ wholeheartedly. The Call Becomes Clear After 2.5 years in Ohio, we
Is God Right For Me?
I, like many Christians before me, have gone through a lot of spiritual change and transformation and have asked myself, “Is God Right For Me?” As I’ve taken time to reflect lately, I thought that I’d share my story. I grew up at The Village, with incredible and loving parents, who are still to this day two of my greatest supporters. We went to church every Sunday. I would go to Sunday school or to “big church”. Throughout my childhood we would often talk about the message and its meaning, as well as the important aspects of being a Jesus follower. Fast-forward to seventh grade, and I got baptized! It was an amazing moment, celebrated with my family, and was happy about my decision for the most part. There was a part of me that was filled with uncertainty. That was right before I went through what I like to call my “low spot”, which was eighth grade and my freshman year of high school. How Low Can You Go? A combination of toxic friends, a non-religious boyfriend, and stressful health issues followed by weight gain definitely put me in a low spot. I was seriously questioning if God even existed at all, often feeling uncomfortable at church, as if I didn’t belong or was an imposter. I was wondering if this whole God thing was really for me, and I decided that I would be just fine without him there. Uh-huh. I only felt empty, which pushed me away further. I was wondering how God could let me feel so empty and hollow if He really did love me. Fast-forward to January of Freshman year. I had a difficult breakup and just more emptiness. I finally told my parents about how lost I was, and they helped guide me in the right direction. They helped me to order my life, but I still hadn’t accepted that it was my struggling faith that was at the root of my problems. One Moment Changed Everything The emptiness persisted. Months later, in the spring of 2020, I had my moment, my epiphany, as I like to think of it. It was strangely sudden, and it caught me off guard, but I prayed. I don’t know why, it was over something trivial, but I remember thinking, “Thank you, God.” And that simple thought sparked this strange warmth in me. So I kept the conversation going, as if I were talking to my dad, just saying what was on my mind. I opened up my heart for the first time in ages. All of my regrets, pain, and secrets. Over the next few weeks, I prayed more often. Over the course of time, He cleansed me, of everything. I felt clean, even more so than what I felt at my baptism. I returned to Him, and He took me in with open arms. Since then, I’ve wavered on occasion. I go long stretches without praying very frequently, and then inevitably, I feel more overwhelmed and stressed than I otherwise would have. But there have been several moments, such as my mom’s cancer, where I shared my pain with Him, and His comfort has been greater than I could’ve imagined. A Pleasant Surprise The more I involve Him in my life, the more I find that I am content, and I see more joy around me, even in times of pain. I’ve learned that no pain I can experience can eclipse God’s goodness. When I go to Him, I feel at peace. For those of you who are wondering if this whole God thing is right for you, I might suggest that you take a moment to seek earnestly. No matter where you are in life, He will take you. He wants you; He wants your heart. His hand is always outstretched towards you, waiting for you. Don’t be afraid to take it. You may be surprised by where your life goes from there. Everyone is in a different place in life, there several places you can get connected. Learn More About Baptism Find a Lifegroup Serve At The Village How Can We Pray For You?
What Do Waiting Rooms And The Church Have In Common?
What do waiting rooms and the church have in common? Last week, I was in a hospital surgical waiting room for 10 hours. What an interesting place to observe. I listened to the man checking in the families give the same speech dozens of times. Here’s your free voucher for a small drink and directions to the cafeteria, and the lockers are over there. It was nearly the same, word-for-word, each time. He was very friendly. Some of the visitors came in as families, all anxiously waiting to hear how the surgery went. Most were by themselves. Some fell asleep. Others were constantly calling or texting, passing on updates to family and friends after they had received updates themselves. Four times, if I remember right, there was what sounded like a nursery lullaby over the PA system. New birth was celebrated throughout the hospital. As surgeries finished, most visitors were greeted by a smiling nurse saying, “All went well, you can expect to see them soon.” A few were greeted by the surgeon, and their update was given in another room, behind a closed door. Great news, good news, and bad news given throughout the day—that was what stayed on my mind the most from that experience over the last few days. And it got me thinking about the church. Everyone Is Welcome At Church Some people show up on Sunday mornings after a terrible week, or even a terrible season. They buried a parent, marriage is full of tension, or the kids have been a struggle. Maybe all the above. Others show up full of joy, God has provided yet again! The friend they invited finally accepted and came with, and they had a great conversation about faith on the way over. The new job came with a pay raise and better hours. There was no fighting on the car ride over, and the kids got ready early enough to grab coffee on the way in. People are walking in, bringing great news, good news, and bad news, and it reminded me of what Paul said to the church after writing about what the church is: a body. Near the end of his description, he wrote, “If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.” If I’m honest, it’s one of my favorite parts of the church. To the best of our ability, no one will suffer alone here. We may stumble over our words or not know what to say at all, but we suffer with you, even if we’re far from suffering. And we want to celebrate you, even if we’re in the midst of suffering. There’s something beautiful about that, so keep your head up and your eyes open. Look for those suffering and celebrating people—they’re all over the church, because they are the church. Suffer and celebrate together as you both look to Jesus, perhaps for very different reasons, because that’s what we do as the church. Connect In A Lifegroup. If you don’t go further than a church service, you’re missing out on all that God created for you! Life is better together so find a group and get connected.
You Are The Church
Do you remember the last time you went somewhere new? You didn’t know where the location was (you trusted your phone app ?) and arrived and everything was new. It may have been exciting, uncomfortable, or scary. Last Fall my wife, Rachelle, and I made a trip to Washington, D.C. We had an appointment to meet our tour guide at the representative office in the Rayburn Office Building. If you’ve never been there, it’s a maze. We got lost twice and it could have been uncomfortable and scary, but both times members of Congress helped us get to where we needed to go. We were so thankful for a friendly face and the help from people who didn’t need to take time out to help us. Visiting a new church can bring up those same feelings of being uncomfortable and scared. Last year over 600 people visited the church. Each one may have felt nervous and unsure because it was something new. Your response (a friendly welcome, an offer for help, a thanks for being here) can make or break their next step of faith in trying to get closer to God. I love it when people engage in ministry because Church isn’t a building or a place. It is a group of people experiencing life change, life growth, and life purpose. You are the Church. In 2020 we are praying for over 1,000 first time visitors at The Village. That is 1,000 lives being changed by God. We are praying that they feel welcomed, comfortable and excited about their next step. You can help make that happen. You are the Church. Recently a family visited for the first time. One of our regulars introduced themselves and flagged me down to say hello. The visiting family had kids, so immediately the welcoming family told them about Pulse Student Ministries that was kicking off that night. The kids came and loved it! Then, the next day two of our Pulse students met one of the new students at high school because it was their first day having just moved to the community. The students showed the new student around so he could feel right at home. Isn’t that wonderful?! My prayer is that I and WE can be as welcoming as our students and do our very best to point people to Jesus, living out this verse… Keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it. (Hebrews 13:1-2 NIV)